Online dating: 5 things to say in your first message……


So you've joined an online dating site, and someone has caught your eye - so, what now? The first message you send can make or break your chances of a successful first date, so it's important you get it right.After all, first impressions matter —especially when you're not meeting face to face.


#1 Humour works a treat

Most online daters are looking for 'someone that can make them laugh'.Avoid being cheesy though— aim your joke at something you both have in common — perhaps something in her profile — maybe a movie? How about a film quote?


#2 Everyone loves a compliment

Prove you've actually read her profile with a compliment about her taste in music, a great restaurant, or a country he's visited. Warm compliments work well in first messages, but superficial ones can have a reverse effect, or come across as weird - so stick to something factual.


#3 Start with shared interests

Finding some common ground can open the door for great conversation. Look through his/her music interests, favourite foods, their job and try and spark up conversation based on what they're into.


#4 . Ask a question

But make sure it's an open one, or the conversation could end before it's begun. Avoid suggesting a face-to-face date in your first message, instead stick to something you've seen on their profile - do you share the same music taste? Has she seen your favourite band live?


#5 Nervous? Keep it simple

Get their attention with a simple 'hey' — it's tested, and it works. Your initial message should be straight and to the point—but make sure you follow up with something more creative, perhaps an open question, or a straight forward how are you?


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